Young Nudists at Sunsport Gardens Naturist Resort Talk About Intimacy, Hairy Pits, and Freedom (NSFW)
A 29-year old ginger with a low ponytail, Chris, came in from Washington State, where he and his wife help organize Vita Nuda, another naturist organization. Annette, as it turns out, is a 21-year old student from Westin who grew up getting naked with the family. She was at this Spring Bash with her brother and twin sister, their seventh bash. "It's not a big deal in our family," she said matter-of-factly, "I'd say we're very liberal... I guess." And we all laughed.
Chris clarified that whole point in coming here isn't about getting undressed in front of people, but rather it allows you to do the things you can't do at home naked, "It's not so much about being in public, it's about being able to do other things." They can play volleyball (again...), swim, and watch a band. We then discussed the uselessness of bathing suits.
He refused to give in and admit that there are things that can be more awkward when you're naked. I mean, I can think of like a million things that could get weirder when not guarding your balls with fabric. Jumping rope? Riding bike? Standing in a packed room?
Aaron, an insightful South Carolinian, joined our conversation. In his Southern drawl, he added that, honestly, some people don't like to do yoga naked. And you can imagine why.
"Being naked is a lifestyle, it's not for everybody," Annette said, "It gets you in touch with yourself."
Aaron, who'd been a naturist for three years, says he got into it for, he guesses, "deeper reasons." Growing up with body issues, after losing a lot of weight, "my skin didn't shrink up tight," he explained. Aaron was always wearing a T-shirt to the beach, now he's just naked. "For me, now, I'd rather be nude than just topless, I can feel that belt going around me, and I'm just more self-conscious. That's maybe just me."
We got on the steamy topic of nudity and sex. Usually, if you're naked, you're getting down, taking a shower, or something. How does IT become a thing when, you're already naked? Aaron pointed out: "That's coming from the viewpoint that nudity is an intimate thing." See, getting to the heart of the matter, this guy! "This setting isn't necessarily intimate." Except for the hot tub, he had a really valid point.
"Genuine intimacy is an actual connection with another person, it's not nudity," Chris noted. "This is actually meeting the other individual. Having everybody naked, in my opinion, at least, you meet the other person faster, because there's less of a barrier. Well, clearly there's less of a barrier." We all laughed again. "There's a few layers less!" Annette joked.
Sandy and I had spoken on the topic earlier. Being naked isn't inherently sexual, like getting a bath at the hospital, for instance. But how do people deal with the tension of being naked and out and frolicking around with their peers? She said men will typically stay in the pool if they get excited, and the Sunsport staff will ask someone to cover up and exit the area if they're inappropriate. I commented on how embarrassing that must be! She laughed, "I know it sounds really weird! But it's necessary, we're a family resort. We understand that these are natural things that happen." But she admitted there's an elusiveness in matters of sexual intimacy. "I can see my husband naked now, and it does nothing for me, but in an hour, it could. But why? Who knows what that reason could be. Part of that is what's going on inside. Your emotion that you have toward it."
Mid-conversation, Morley showed up to add his two cents with Florida native, Sunny -- who in an email said she'd be the one out there with the green pubes -- her partner Tommy, and Robbe. Sunny's 10 month old (who she calls the "community baby") is still breastfeeding. She's topless.
Sunny, whose fun, brightly colored sunglasses hung from her many necklaces said on the topic of meeting people without clothes, "There's no way to judge them, because there's nothing to judge them on." I pointed out her glasses are a form of expression. I asked if there's some sort of nudist subculture fashion, to express themselves with ornaments. Sunny said no, but there are styles of sarongs, body paint, tattoos. Robbe suggested hairy armpits. Sunny lifted her arms, and we all giggled.