Opinion: Rihanna and Chris Brown Back Together Is Seriously Confusing

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Rihanna and Chris Brown appear to be back together after a bizarre, sexually-tense, passive-aggressive break-up, or hiatus rather. This information has fueled many fucked up emotions in all of us.

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We all know how it ended, with tears, bruises, and heartache. That was exactly when my hate for Chris Brown erupted -- seriously, this guy is a piece of shit. I've read so many reactions to this situation, some complex and some just downright offensive. Not sure why people find it easy to, in a roundabout way, pin RiRi as the one at fault. That just comments deeper on where our society stands on male and female roles in relationships than anything else. 

The typical and appropriate reaction to this whole thing is: "WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU GETTING BACK WITH THIS ASSHOLE?" Less so: "Well, it's her choice and we should respect that." This situation reminds me of The Crystals' song "He Hit Me (It Felt Like A Kiss)," a tune that everyone should listen to when assessing Rihanna and Chris Brown's relationship (moreso than the "We Found Love" video). The song, which is about singer Little Eva's experience with domestic violence, is haunting, beautiful, and sad only because of the woman's delusion of love and the violence associated with it.

This sentiment is probably more common than we think, especially in 2012. It's a cross-cultural phenomenon but moreso in hip-hop culture where misogyny exists in its subconscious and abundance. It's sad to not see more artists in the industry stand up against this dude. I don't care how good "Look At Me Now" was.

Chris Brown is a prick. This is only underlined more by his new neck tattoo, which should be a signifier, deal-breaker, red-light, whatever for Rihanna. And the fact that Chris Brown still even has a career in rap/R&B is less about him and more about this industry's priorities.

As of 2000, according to the National Violence Against Women Survey, about 1.5 million women are raped or physically assaulted by an intimate partner annually. That's about 4,000 girls a day. And the women who come back to these relationships, do so out of fear for themselves, children or, even worse, love.

Rihanna doesn't have kids, and it'd be hard to really fear Chris Brown because they both live in a vacuum of spotlight and attention. Besides, Jay-Z will beat the shit outta the kid if he gets near her again. Escaping Brown is easy.

It sucks to see Rihanna getting back with a jerk, who used her face like a piece of clay. As heartbreaking as it is to see a woman go back into something like this, another part of me does realize how much of this lies with her. There's a sense of respect that comes with a decision like it. Not "oh, she's brave," but "well, that's what she chose."

Our country is going through conflict of choice, especially for women. The idea of "her right to choose" is, on some ends, the backbone of our presidential election. There's politics involved in this, and, in a sense, Rihanna chose to be with this dude and I can see that the natural, female politic plays a role here. Not many will comprehend why this is her decision, but now's not a time to be challenging decisions made since we're fighting to accelerate an environment of rights, no matter what the outcome is.

Like Rihanna, we saw Chris Brown mature (arguably) from an Usher-type to Ike Turner. It made the whole abuse more shocking because it was fucking out of character. The tattoo (face of a bruised woman) only solidifies this ongoing male normative bullshit that beating your spouse is generational and normal. Normal, in the sense that it happens all the time. But it is abnormal. It's an engrained facet of macho culture that needs to exit the consciousness and, instead, we need to embrace communication as the solution to everything.

Note: If I spot one of my friends on Facebook saying some horrifying, misogynistic shit where you somehow justify Rihanna getting beaten again (and deserving it), then it's an instant de-friend, block and whatever else I can do to get you out of my life. 





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16 comments
RihannaDiva
RihannaDiva

@NewTimesBroward Mind your own business!

sethjj1975
sethjj1975

It is hardly misogynistic to say that, at this point, Rihanna is indeed asking for it. They've both proven themselves to trash. Good riddance.

Adam Matza
Adam Matza

Doesn't agree? What does that mean? Doesn't like makes more sense.

adFart
adFart

@twowayy perfect piece and sums up exactly, to a tee, how I feel about that whole bullshit situation

bschi002
bschi002

Is that first person serious?  How could someone that writes with the prowess and intelligence of a brick criticize how you write.  Back on topic though I agree with what you're saying, the whole move is most likely just a publicity opportunity by whatever label they are under.  Still though when it happened she seemed really negatively affected, sad to see her seemingly swallow her pride for the sake of drumming up attention.

a-stapleton1
a-stapleton1

Well THIS is a very strange site. A very well-written article - tho an opinion I totally disagree with - and a comment that criticizes the writer as "u r the worst writer I have ever encounter.... your lifless peaice of crap" (well - spelled 'crap' right). It ends ''am gana tell you this the way you writting SHUT THE FUK UP...gdbye and dnt forget some education."

Is this intentional farce? My morning laugh....

 

But much more important - I'm glad you title this "Opinion" because it means people can disagree. As am older fan of Chris Brown, I have followed all he has done (not just hitting Rihanna, breaking a window, and getting a tatoo) and explained and said over the last four years, and I will defend him as a hyper-talented, emotionally charged young man with some personal problems and guilty of a three major isolated breakdowns/stupid actions. This is three days out of four years - 1,460 days. There is much more to this boy than those three mess-ups, and we should not simply write him off as a prick. Unlike your observation, many DO 'comprehend why this is her decision.' It seems you don't like sappy terms like forgiveness or love (though you do mention 'delusional love'). Or, at least we refrain from judging a complicated love relationship that only those two understand in detail and only they can grapple with their decisions.

I will stop, though I have a lot more to say - wish we could go to lunch.

laith.almulla
laith.almulla

u r the WORST WRITER I HAVE EVER ENCOUNTER, i dnt care about the celebrity life but the way you write is STUPID go to university and get some education before u start writting learn how to politly say your openion you random....REALL RUBBISH you lifless peaice of crap!!!! god media now days let a primary school graduate write on their sight so disappointing... so am gana tell you this the way you writting SHUT THE FUK UP... gdbye and dnt forget some education...

twowayy
twowayy

@adFart thank u man!

Notadamnvictim
Notadamnvictim

 @a-stapleton1

 Disgagree completely. Most people have been in a bad relationship that they couldn't justify even to themselves, and while it is their choice, there's a point where the people around them should intervene, because they are too emotionally messed up to stop making idiotic decisions about the criminals they're having sex with. Hitting - no forgiveness. Rape - no forgiveness. Cheating (yeah, boo-hoo) - no forgiveness. Cheaters cheat, beaters beat, and a guy with a tattoo bragging of his violence against women is a prick who is not reformed and doesn't want to be because his starry eyed fans would proabably forgive him if he murdered her. I don't care if he has talent (not my cup of tea, but that's irrelevant) - most people have some kind of talent. It doesn't excuse the fact that he's an unrepentant piece of crap. Tina Turner had the right idea, and Ike got exactly what he deserved in the end. The only difference between Rihanna and Whitney Houston is 25 years and a pulse.

mrfantomhawk
mrfantomhawk

@laith.almulla

*You* *Are*, *Encountered* *don’t* *go to a university* *writing*, *politely* *opinion* *real* *lifeless* *piece* *nowadays* *site* *going to* *writing* *goodbye* don’t*   People who live in glass houses laith.  

 

adFart
adFart

@twowayy ain’t seen u in a minute nigga

adFart
adFart

@twowayy will do!

twowayy
twowayy

@adFart yes im down. u should check out the new converge record. u might like it. not that melodic, tho. just rough

adFart
adFart

@twowayy dude it ain’t no thang. Lets just get together soon

twowayy
twowayy

@adFart i know man! wtf im sorry i couldnt make it to ur bday.

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