Opinion: Leave Chris Brown and Rihanna Alone Unless You're Suggesting a Couples Counselor
- Rihanna and Chris Brown Together Is Seriously Confusing
On Monday, New Times writer Ryan Morejon shared his opinion on the Chris Brown Rihanna reunion. Although I agree with him on points -- you know, like about how it's inherently wrong for a dude to beat up a lady -- I had a different perspective on the scene overall. To simplify the differences, while Ryan felt the Crystals' "He Hit Me (It Felt Like a Kiss)" described their situation best, I think Mickey and Sylvia's "Love Is Strange" is more appropriate. I wasn't in the car when the beat down occurred. I don't know what Rihanna like feels inside. I have no idea if Brown's anger management classes worked out for him. But damn, love is strange and sometimes really ugly.
It would be wise for me to say that I don't condone men beating up women. So, I'll say it: I don't condone men beating up women. It's pretty hard to justify any guy pummeling a female or a child or a dog. But as hard as it is to admit, if you know a little something about adult codependency: There are two people in every relationship, and so two adult people are consenting to the activities therein. Getting involved again with someone who roughed you up, this falls under the codependent umbrella.
Last year, I wrote something that could been taken as a semi-apologist article on Chris Brown. The more I read about the situation, the more I could relate to both parties involved on some level. When young and amped up, often we find ourselves in relationships that are unhealthy and at times violent. It's hard to see these two as normal 21-year-olds whose ridiculous fight got way, way, way out of hand. (If you forget the details, click here. They're not cute) But they were barely adults, and crazy, and he definitely beat the crap out of her.