RIP, Ingrid Pastorius, Ex-Wife of Jaco Pastorius (1950-2011)

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Ingrid Pastorius with Jaco Pastorius' four children -- John, Julius, Felix, and Mary -- in 1983.
Ingrid Pastorius, who was married to virtuoso electric bassist Jaco Pastorius between 1979 and 1985, died on Monday from complications following an aortic aneurysm, according to a source close to the family. She was 61.

A native of Indonesia, Ingrid also spend time in Holland and Puerto Rico before moving to South Florida at age 20. She then worked as a flight attendant for Eastern Airlines and reportedly was spotted by Jaco before they met on a flight between Fort Lauderdale and New York. Ingrid and Jaco began a relationship in 1977 prior to his work on the "Shadows and Light" tour with Joni Mitchell. They then married -- Jaco's second marriage -- in July of 1979 in Guatemala and bought a house in Deerfield Beach with money he made on tour with Mitchell. Their fraternal twin sons, Felix and Julius Pastorius, were born June 9, 1982.
A lengthy interview with Ingrid at JoniMitchell.com indicates how close she was with her husband's work -- notably he was also a member of Joe Zawinul's Weather Report beginning in the '70s.

Read our birthday tribute to Jaco Pastorius here.

She had this recollection of being by his side while he worked on Mitchell's Mingus album: "We were staying at the Sunset Marquis, and we were going to the studio, and the horns parts were decided in the studio, and then we went back to the hotel," she says. "I think he stayed up until like 5 in the morning. He wasn't using any drugs or alcohol. I have to mention that too. [laughs] Great things did happen when he was sober. The next morning, we went back into the studio, and the horn parts were incredible."

Her favorite composition of her husband's was "Three Views of a Secret," according to an interview she gave to ZawinulFans.org: "Initially it bore my name, but I felt uncomfortable about the idea at the time. I do not regret making him change it, for I just simply love the name it is now."




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Pakmass
Pakmass

i was at the club the night he was beat up   what a loss

Debjoebecca
Debjoebecca

The universe was preparing for your next soaring, Ingrid, and to you and to all thoe who love you and know you and your immesurable beauty, to Janice andSshanti and Julius and Felix,  and to the world of music that Jaco expanded by your love, we wish you a safe and miraculous transition as we feel your beauty aroud usdebbie, rebecca and joe

I.M.
I.M.

I know what its like to lose someone in a tragic way,especially dealing with bipolar disorder or any form of depression really. Youget to a point where they are destroying themselves in front of you andconsequentially destroying your own life and you waiver back and forth as towhether or not you are truly helping them by supporting their illness oralcoholism or other side effects or enabling their behavior. If you have notdirectly experienced bipolar disorder you cannot understand. You cannotunderstand the complexities or the weighted feeling, the isolation,restlessness, the uneasiness. Jaco was so filled with passion he wasextraterrestial, he was out of this earth, he was of the universe. You don’tcreate the type of music that he created -the only way for it to manifest isdirect communion with the divine. The thing is, when you make a consciouschoice to sacrifice that restless passionate immediacy of unending love, it isnot a choice at all. For your two sons it is not a choice. It is not even aquestion. It is something only a mother knows, protection of her cubs. She hadto let him go. But the second she lost him,  I tell ya, when you are shattered and gutted by death yourealize how inconsequential everything else is. Their love was so unique and sounearthly and I cant imagine a day didn’t go by, a moment didn’t go by whereshe didn’t carry the weight of her decision or indecision. They shared a bondso unique that it surpassed the human form. If she could go back she would havenever left him for a minute, despite the wrath it may have inflicted upon J orF. And every day for 25 years she had to live thinking that in some way shecould have changed something. If she had just called him one more time. If shehad just followed him there. If she could just shake him out of the black hole,but unfortunately there was nothing she could have done. It was unavoidable.This is what happens when the universe speaks through you. You don’t have timefor trite imperfections. You don’t have time for societal norms orconfinements. You are so present, you are just molecules, be it sound, light,its all the same frequencies of energy. Death comes at such a sudden moment,completely unanticipated yet perfectly designed. You don’t know someone else’ssuffering. Everyone suffers but you truly do not know their suffering.Everything is illusion. Everything. I know the burden of trying to save someonefrom the self and the other but there was nothing in her to do except be on herindividual path, which noone knows except for her. You put up a persona foreverything, noone really knew Ingrid, in her entirety. No individual person did. Clearly, she was loved by so many. Shehad 2 sons, and took on 2 more (M&C) or maybe 3. I don’t really know any ofthem but I imagine. And daughters, and that extension of the universal divinealways radiated through her in every step of the way. Im sorry but 25 years of suffering a loss of a universallove is too much to bare, the only thing that could surpass that was staying onthis planet for 25 years to watch her sons grow into the extraordinary humansthey are. They have had to play under the pretense of their father (obviously agreat task) however, now they will not only be playing for their father butthey will be playing with the unending love of their mother, the love that isinfinite, will be playing through them, the love that sacrificed 25 years tosee them grow and bestow upon them the wisdom, kindness, generosity and lovethat radiated through every cell of her. Im sure the healing process will be the most challenging thing for them. Losing a parent at 5 years old is muchdifferent than at 30. At 5, it helps you escape into a delusional fantasy, analter reality and live with a foundational history and support, out of thisrealm. But at 30, when you are at the point when you finally learn not to carewhat others think and you might have some stuff figured out,  leaves you completely exposed. The potential of her sons and daughters to create sound, to create vibration, tocreate energy will be limitless. Could the universe have created a more perfectdesign then for her to be reunited with the love of the divine and hercounterpart just hours before the 60th birthday anniversary leavingan open road for them into eternity. Its as if they came into this world as a singleentity to usher in the next wave, the new wave, the formless wave. As gutted asher sons and daughters and brothers and sisters might be right now, they willrise again. If this is a realization of how ephemeral our existence is, howimpermanent a molecular form is so be it. When they find the strength to take tothe instrument, instead of to the mind dullers (booze, drugs, uncannyindulgence) they as a unit will create the next level of sound. I just hope itsmore in the genres of country, blues, folk, old time – true and ratherheartfelt music that they can perform without the constrictions of their predecessors.Jazz or stretch or whatever the kids call it was cool in the 70s when peoplewere still free and bohemian and open and receiving and cultured and styled, but alas, it has become outdated. now a daysits only about the ego – far too egoic. Its lost its individuality and becomesomething of pretense, fueled with insecurity and competition. When Joni andJaco wailed “there’s no comprehending just how close to the bone and the skinand the eyes and the lips you can get, and still feel so alone” they wereeminating raw human emotion and it was original. But it is time to drain theirhearts and dissipate their souls with the music they are passionate aboutrather than trite egoic jazz, a new sound that will rise above all otherbecause it will be experiential and like no other, void of certainty or form,but of the earth. Someone get them a boxset of the dead(grateful d, the band,neil young, whatever). im sure their father and mother would approve all theway to dissolution of human form as they usher humanity and the next wave ofconsciousness through this human form. Rejoice in the all-pervading omnipotent illusionof life. We are all cylons after all. Not to be nihilistic but there is nosorrow, this is almost over, this comment, and your life. “It’s all a dream wedreamed one afternoon, long ago.”

Lelectra26
Lelectra26

He was a human being, for crying out loud. Talent worship is unhealthy for the fan the the artist.

werscher12
werscher12

It's not about talent worship so much as it is the deconstruction of molecular energy, seems to be more about what I.M. is saying.

Jfreeman
Jfreeman

I'm so sorry to hear of Ingrids passing. As a friend of a family friend who helped bring Felix and Julius along, I know that she did so well with Jaco's children. Blessings and safe passage, Ingrid.

The DreZone
The DreZone

Ingrid made time for people and her devotion to Jaco's memory proved this.I was honoured to have her acknowledge my homage and even contacted me to be included on her cybernest page...

Ingrid is a rarity indeed.

The homage "Jaco" can be head here, it's now a tribute: facebook.com/thedrezoneofficia...

David Roehm
David Roehm

An incredibly talented man ....almost .always has a good woman behind him .....remember the day he died ....time to add a tribute to Ingrid at Jaco park ...I suppose he would have liked that ...they are looking down on us for  sure

Brother James, Jay
Brother James, Jay

My relationship with Ingrid began through her brothers Peter and Paul.  They all treated me as if I was part of their wonderful family (esp. Mama Onie!).  Inge was truly an angel on earth, and God has re-claimed her.  Love and prayers for the whole family!

David Holmes
David Holmes

It's a pity this report was all about her husband. This lady had her own life and career and will be missed by many, many people, including young students from around the world. We have lost a kind and caring human being.

David Holmes

Michael Bongo Hawn
Michael Bongo Hawn

My friends and I are all so sad.  She was such a great person.  Just a wonderful soul.  There is a big hole in the local musical community.

Guest
Guest

Those who know Ingrid know she was all about promoting Jaco and keeping him in a positive light. As her gifted sons grew up and became active in the music scene, she was all about promoting the three of them, and some other good causes.I think Ingrid (and Jaco too) would be most pleased to know we are listening to/watching for Julius and Felix out and about.  They are both real musical talents!  No surprise, considering their genes and their saturation with great music since infancy (search them on youtube). Right now, of course we are all thinking of Julius and Felix in their difficult time.

Paul Abrahams
Paul Abrahams

Sad to hear about Ingrid she will be missed by her loved ones. +1 on the Hall of Fame for Jaco

Trebleclef
Trebleclef

Ingrid was an amazing friend and devote to Jaco.. I spoke to her a few days ago and have been shocked upon hearing the news.  We were working on a project to get Jaco in the R&R Hall of Fame.  Ingrid was an amazing musician, an amazing mother and just an amazing women.  Ingrid, you shall be missed.  You are finally with Jaco....

Michael Ricci
Michael Ricci

@Trebleclef; keep working on getting Jaco inducted into the R&R HoF.  Please let me know if I can help...have friends in Cleveland.  Was just with her nephew David Pastorius in LA at Bass Player Live as will have to send him my condolences.  Gad bless her soul

Trebleclef
Trebleclef

thx for your words..Regarding Jaco and Hall of Fame, Ingrid had petitions with the required number of signatures...I'm not sure if she took other steps after that.. I was in the Hall over the summer and felt Jaco needed to be there and now maybe Ingrid's contribution as well...Keep in touch.. Much love,  Andy

Hlwdmusic
Hlwdmusic

Such a shock!  Ingrid was truly a beautiful soul, we will all miss her deeply!

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